For many of us, the election of 2016 was a turning point. For me, it confirmed all of my worst fears about what Americans were capable of. I knew then that in order to survive, in order to thrive, I would have to make some serious changes.
Self-Care has been a cornerstone of my life and my work for years. What became clear to me in the winter of 2016/2017 was that on the whole, black women are terrible at self-care. And it makes sense - everything in our society is set up so that we never learn how to truly care for ourselves. White Supremacy, Capitalism, Patriarchy - each of these systems operate best when black women are oppressed, stressed, isolated, and scrambling.
Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare. - Audre Lorde
So how do we fight back? How do we heal ourselves when the trauma never ends? How do we care for ourselves, our families, and our communities?
These are the questions that I am attempting to answer with the Self-Care in Color Virtual Retreat.
Self-Care is not (only) massages and manicures, girls night out and chocolate. Self-care is therapy, it's deep conversation, it's making and actually going to that doctor's appointment you've been putting off. It's paying bills and organizing your living space. It's setting boundaries and asking for what you need. It's taking care of ourselves physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, sexually, and financially.
SELF-CARE IS LEARNING TO THRIVE.
#BlackGirlMagic comes at a price. They call us magic when they see our beauty, our excellence, our humor, our spirit. All too often no one sees the trauma, the pain, the fear, the hurt, the exhaustion, the actual humanity of black women.
This year our theme is Live The Magic because it is time for black women to reclaim our magic for ourselves. We will heal ourselves, we will live free, we will thrive.